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人性最大的弱點(diǎn)是自我重視。凡事應(yīng)該從自己身上找原因,凡事檢討自己的不足,而不是要環(huán)境或者他人的改變來(lái)適應(yīng)你。?有85%以上的人都是被動(dòng)的,如果你能采取主動(dòng),你就能掌握整個(gè)局面,當(dāng)代最偉大的籃球巨星邁克爾·喬丹說(shuō)過(guò)一句話(huà):“我不相信被動(dòng)有收獲,凡事一定要主動(dòng)出擊。”如何選擇才更好呢?--------------思想品質(zhì)好,知識(shí)能力強(qiáng),人脈要好,收入要比較高,選擇成為一流的人就要跟一流的人在一起?與朋友相處時(shí)我們要做到以下幾點(diǎn):主動(dòng)、熱忱、微笑、誠(chéng)實(shí)真誠(chéng)、幫助別人、經(jīng)常與朋友聯(lián)系、吃小虧、找出共同點(diǎn)
只要你每一次都做到最好,就是一種信用的累積,如此,
對(duì)你的成功會(huì)有倍增的幫助
只要你每一次都做到最好,就是一種信用的累積,如此,
對(duì)你的成功會(huì)有倍增的幫助
只要你每一次都做到最好,就是一種信用的累積,如此,
對(duì)你的成功會(huì)有倍增的幫助
只要你每一次都做到最好,就是一種信用的累積,如此,對(duì)你的成功會(huì)有倍增的幫助
所謂人際關(guān)系,是指人們?cè)诟鞣N具體的社會(huì)領(lǐng)域中,通過(guò)人與人之間的交往建立起心理上的聯(lián)系,它反映在群體活動(dòng)中,人們相互之間的情感距離和相互吸引與排拒的心理狀態(tài)。和諧、友好、積極、親密的人際關(guān)系都屬于良好的人際關(guān)系,對(duì)于一個(gè)人的工作、生活和學(xué)習(xí)是有益的;相反,不和諧、緊張、消極、敵對(duì)的人際關(guān)系則是不良的人際,對(duì)一個(gè)的工作、生活和學(xué)習(xí)是有害的。社會(huì)心理學(xué)的調(diào)查研究了表明,良好的人際關(guān)系是一個(gè)人心理正常發(fā)展,個(gè)性保持健康和生活具有幸福感的重要條件之一。古語(yǔ)云:“天時(shí)不如地利,地利不如人和”。對(duì)于遠(yuǎn)離家鄉(xiāng)外出求學(xué)的大學(xué)生來(lái)說(shuō),無(wú)論在什么情況下都應(yīng)重視“人和”這個(gè)重要因素。美國(guó)著名成人教育家戴爾.卡耐基經(jīng)過(guò)大量的研究發(fā)現(xiàn)說(shuō):“一個(gè)人事業(yè)上的成功,只有百分之十一是由于他的專(zhuān)業(yè)技術(shù),另外的百分之八十要靠人際關(guān)系、處世技巧。”此話(huà)也許說(shuō)得絕對(duì)些,但也從另一側(cè)面說(shuō)明良好人際關(guān)系對(duì)成就事業(yè)的重要性。所以大學(xué)生學(xué)會(huì)建立良好人際關(guān)系的方法,掌握其途徑,無(wú)論是對(duì)在校建立起一個(gè)良好的學(xué)習(xí)環(huán)境,還是對(duì)畢業(yè)后建立一個(gè)良好的工作環(huán)境,都是十分必要的。建立良好的人際關(guān)系的具體方法很多,但在日常生活中,最為主要,同時(shí)又可以有效地為每一個(gè)人所運(yùn)用的主要有以下幾個(gè)方面:
第一、建立良好的第一印象。人際關(guān)系是在人們的交往中產(chǎn)生的。交往伊始,誰(shuí)不想給對(duì)方留下一份美好的印象呢?同樣,誰(shuí)不想與留下好印象的人繼續(xù)往來(lái),以此作為深入交往的基礎(chǔ)?我們?cè)谂c別人發(fā)生最初交往時(shí),應(yīng)該怎樣表現(xiàn)才能使自己給別人留下良好的第一印象呢?
要注意儀表美。人的儀表,包括相貌、穿著、儀態(tài)、風(fēng)度等,都是影響人際交往的因素。人們總是傾向于覺(jué)得儀表有魅力的人更活潑愉快,更友善合群。衣著整潔、大方,儀表舉止自然會(huì)給人一種親近感,反之,過(guò)分修飾,油頭粉面,濃裝艷抹,則會(huì)給人一種不合宜的印象。
要注意交往中的"SOLER"技術(shù)。在這里,S(SIT)代表"坐要面對(duì)別人";O(OPEN)表示"姿勢(shì)要自然開(kāi)放";L(LEAN)的意思為"身體微微前傾";E(EYES)代表"目光接觸";R(RELXX)表示“放松“。心理學(xué)家發(fā)現(xiàn),在社交場(chǎng)合,有意識(shí)地運(yùn)用SOLER技術(shù),可以有效地增加給別人的好感,讓別人更好的接納,給人留下良好的第一印象。
待人要真誠(chéng)熱情。一般情況下,交往雙方總是先接受說(shuō)話(huà)的人,然后才會(huì)接受對(duì)方陳述的內(nèi)容。因此,對(duì)人講話(huà)時(shí),態(tài)度應(yīng)該誠(chéng)懇,要避免油腔滑調(diào),高談闊論,嘩眾取寵,壟斷話(huà)題,否則會(huì)使人感到不愉快。實(shí)事求是,態(tài)度熱情,往往給人一種信賴(lài)感,親近感,這有利于交往的繼續(xù)深入;反之,如果言不由衷轉(zhuǎn)彎抹角,態(tài)度冷談,則給人一種虛假、冷淡的感覺(jué),交往很難再深入下去。
做一個(gè)忠實(shí)的聽(tīng)眾。每個(gè)人都需要有自我表現(xiàn)的機(jī)會(huì)。在初次交往中,有效地表現(xiàn)自己固然重要,但做一個(gè)耐心的聽(tīng)眾,鼓勵(lì)別人多談他們自己,同樣是不可少的。
當(dāng)然,要給別人留下良好的第一印象,還受其他許多因素的影響,比如:講信用,守時(shí)間,文明禮貌,等等。
第二,主動(dòng)交往。在現(xiàn)實(shí)生活中,有許多人盡管與人交往的欲望很強(qiáng)烈,但仍然不得不常常忍受孤獨(dú)的折磨,他們的友人很少,甚至沒(méi)有友人,因?yàn)樗麄冊(cè)谏缃簧峡偸遣扇∠麡O的被動(dòng)的退縮方式,總是等待別人來(lái)首先接納他們。因此,雖然他們同樣處于一個(gè)人來(lái)人往,熙熙攘攘的世界,卻仍然無(wú)法擺脫心靈的孤寂。要知道, 別人是不會(huì)無(wú)緣無(wú)故對(duì)我們感興趣的。因此,我們要想贏得別人,同別人建立良好人際關(guān)系,建立起一個(gè)豐富的人際關(guān)系世界,就必須做交往的始動(dòng)者,處于主動(dòng)地位。我們就應(yīng)少擔(dān)心,多嘗試。當(dāng)你主動(dòng)與陌生人打招呼,攀談時(shí);當(dāng)你在舞會(huì)上想去邀請(qǐng)舞伴時(shí),你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你的努力幾乎都是成功的。當(dāng)你的成功經(jīng)驗(yàn)越來(lái)越多,你的自信心也會(huì)越來(lái)越充分,你的人際關(guān)系處境也會(huì)越來(lái)越好。
第三,關(guān)心幫助別人。患難識(shí)知已,逆境見(jiàn)真情。當(dāng)一個(gè)人遇到坎坷,碰到困難,遭到失敗時(shí),往往對(duì)人情世態(tài)最為敏感,最需要關(guān)懷和幫助,這時(shí)那怕是一個(gè)笑臉,一個(gè)體貼的眼神,一句溫暖的話(huà)語(yǔ),都能讓人感到安慰,感到振奮。因此,當(dāng)別人遇到困難,陷入困境時(shí),你能伸出援助之手,幫助困難者,安慰失意者,可以很快贏得別人,建立起良好的人際關(guān)系。如果對(duì)別人漠不關(guān)心,麻木不仁,小心吝嗇,怕招引麻煩,交往很可能因此而中止。
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學(xué)著角色換位,嘗試站在別人的角度考慮問(wèn)題,慢慢的就能建立良好的人際關(guān)系。例如,要學(xué)會(huì)給人留面子,就是懂得尊重人的問(wèn)題,你也希望被尊重的。不談?wù)搫e人是非,你也不希望別人講究你吧?有困難時(shí)希望有人援助,安慰,那么別人需要你幫助時(shí),不要吝惜精力。不要抓住別人的缺點(diǎn)不留余地,人無(wú)完人,你犯錯(cuò)誤了,也希望別人給你機(jī)會(huì)吧?…這樣考慮問(wèn)題,很自然的就學(xué)會(huì)與人相處了,是學(xué)會(huì),證明不是天生的。“世事洞明皆學(xué)問(wèn),人情練達(dá)即文章”共勉吧
做人要厚道
不能耍心眼啊
多從別人的利益出發(fā)就不愁別人理解不了你了啊
在別人面前不要總是 我怎么怎么樣...眼中只有自己
每個(gè)人都有優(yōu)點(diǎn)或缺點(diǎn)
用平和的語(yǔ)氣和別人說(shuō)話(huà)
用平和的心態(tài)和人交往
不要總在別人面前呈能
多夸獎(jiǎng)別人
多看別人的優(yōu)點(diǎn)
虛心學(xué)習(xí)別人的長(zhǎng)處
如何構(gòu)建積極的人際關(guān)系?
1. 以真誠(chéng)的態(tài)度對(duì)待他人。當(dāng)你以真誠(chéng)相待時(shí),往往容易打動(dòng)人,使別人感到安全從而放下戒備。?
2. 講求信用。一個(gè)守信之人更能得到別人的信任。?
3. 學(xué)會(huì)包容。人無(wú)完人,每個(gè)人都有自己的棱角,相處時(shí)難免會(huì)有摩擦,這就需要我們學(xué)會(huì)包容他人,不必苛求他人完全符合你的要求。其實(shí)別人也在包容著你。?
4. 以積極的心態(tài)看待當(dāng)前的人際關(guān)系和所接觸的人。有時(shí)候情況并沒(méi)有想象中那么糟糕,當(dāng)你以消極的情緒和態(tài)度去對(duì)待一段人際關(guān)系時(shí),你會(huì)越來(lái)越討厭和那個(gè)人的相處;相反的,當(dāng)你以積極的態(tài)度去看待這種人際關(guān)系的時(shí)候,會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)其實(shí)也沒(méi)那么糟糕。 5. 主動(dòng)溝通。在和他人的相處中遇到問(wèn)題時(shí),不要回避,回避會(huì)讓雙方的關(guān)系僵化。主動(dòng)地和對(duì)方溝通,嘗試著解決矛盾。 6. 把握原則。在和他人的相處中,互相包容是必要的,但這并不意味著要一味遷就對(duì)方,在原則問(wèn)題上要堅(jiān)守立場(chǎng)。?
7. 讓自己感到愉快。讓自己感到愉快不是隨心所欲,而是學(xué)會(huì)在一段人際關(guān)系的處理中使自己的愉悅感最大化。這種愉悅感的最大化可以通過(guò)自己的心理來(lái)調(diào)節(jié),也可以通過(guò)相處方式的選擇來(lái)達(dá)到,或者是其他積極合理的方式來(lái)提升自己在這段關(guān)系中的愉悅感。
We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and probably some friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are simply not fulfilling.
每個(gè)人都有交際,都有認(rèn)識(shí)的人、親戚、同事、鄰居還有一些朋友。但對(duì)很多人來(lái)說(shuō),以上這些人際關(guān)系并不盡人意。
They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.
不盡人意是因?yàn)殛P(guān)系不牢靠,而關(guān)系不牢靠則是因?yàn)槿狈ι罱弧?/p>
Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.
可是,當(dāng)今社會(huì)人與人之間的關(guān)系向來(lái)淡薄,而這種淡薄的人際關(guān)系又怎會(huì)讓人順心如意呢?
I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.
根據(jù)做我做交流與自信力培訓(xùn)教練的經(jīng)驗(yàn),我可以教你怎樣使人際關(guān)系升華、變牢靠,使你的社交生活更加豐富多彩。
1. Meet More People
多認(rèn)識(shí)人
This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.
顯然這有點(diǎn)自相矛盾,但人際“質(zhì)量”確實(shí)跟交往“數(shù)量”有很大關(guān)系。
If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.
如果你交游寥寥,一年四季只結(jié)交一兩個(gè)人,想想你還有那么多各種各樣不曾結(jié)識(shí)的人,那你確實(shí)很難認(rèn)識(shí)跟自己脾氣、愛(ài)好、觀念相投的人了。
And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.
而性格相投對(duì)牢固的人際關(guān)系又是如此關(guān)鍵,所以那樣你更難有機(jī)會(huì)建立良好的人際關(guān)系了。
Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.
相反,如果你經(jīng)常出去結(jié)識(shí)各種各樣的人,社交圈就會(huì)不斷擴(kuò)大,你會(huì)喜歡跟脾氣相投的人打成一片,而這些人極有可能成為你的好朋友、好基友等等。
This is why it’s important to meet more people.
所以多結(jié)交朋友很重要。
2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You
講講自己在乎的事情
A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.
當(dāng)兩個(gè)人發(fā)現(xiàn)彼此的信仰和興趣都很相像時(shí),倆人的關(guān)系必然會(huì)加深。確實(shí),價(jià)值觀和興趣愛(ài)好都能搭建起牢固的情感紐帶。
I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life.
我發(fā)現(xiàn)很多人的交談都比較泛泛。人們一般只會(huì)談些天氣、電視節(jié)目、電影明星八卦等瑣碎話(huà)題,很少觸及各自生活中他們最在乎的部分。
This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.
我覺(jué)得這樣大錯(cuò)特錯(cuò),是扼殺一段人際關(guān)系的殺手锏。
Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.
應(yīng)該談些自己在乎的話(huà)題,讓別人知道你關(guān)心什么、相信什么。如果碰巧他們相信和在乎的事情剛好跟你的一樣,他們肯定會(huì)迫不及待地跟你分享。這樣你便能找到有趣的共同話(huà)題,你們的關(guān)系也會(huì)更加親密了。
3. Express Vulnerability
展現(xiàn)脆弱的一面
Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.
許多人總想表現(xiàn)得完美無(wú)缺。他們不愿談起失敗經(jīng)歷,對(duì)自己的缺點(diǎn)遮遮掩掩,也從不說(shuō)些會(huì)使自己尷尬的事情。
This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.
可這一切都只是表象而已。或許你在某些人面前表現(xiàn)得很完美,但你很清楚自己并不完美,何況他們也看得出來(lái)。你是個(gè)人,人無(wú)完人,都會(huì)有缺點(diǎn)。
However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.
而且,藏起缺點(diǎn)只會(huì)讓你看上去漠然無(wú)情。你更像一尊大理石雕像,而不是活生生的人。而這樣更難讓別人從情感上接近你了。
Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.
人是在跟人打交道,而不是在跟理想打交道。請(qǐng)記住這一點(diǎn),別怕在人面前顯露你的脆弱和感性,只有這樣才能使人際關(guān)系更進(jìn)一步。
4. Have Integrity
坦誠(chéng)相待
Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.
我覺(jué)得坦誠(chéng)體現(xiàn)在人的思維、言談及舉止當(dāng)中。如果你能說(shuō)你所想、做你所說(shuō),你便是個(gè)坦誠(chéng)的人。
This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.
坦誠(chéng)的性格非常重要,因?yàn)檫@樣人們才會(huì)信任你。人們相信你的評(píng)價(jià)會(huì)比較中肯,即便有時(shí)會(huì)忠言逆耳,人們也會(huì)相信你能遵守承諾。
This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.
這種信任是可靠人際關(guān)系的中流砥柱,對(duì)你的生活與工作都很重要。所以,盡管有時(shí)候要做到坦誠(chéng)并不容易,但還是試試吧。
Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.
與周?chē)娜颂拐\(chéng)相待,哪怕剛開(kāi)始這么做會(huì)傷害到他們。比起傷感情來(lái),贏得他們的信任更為重要。而且,一定要踐行諾言。許下承諾前最好先想清楚,覺(jué)得是自己力所能及又非常樂(lè)意的事情時(shí)再作保證。
5. Be There For Others
隨時(shí)伸出援手
Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.
可靠人際關(guān)系的另一個(gè)頂梁柱就是支持。如果能在需要時(shí)伸出援手,不管是幾句安慰的話(huà)還是大刀闊斧的實(shí)際行動(dòng),人與人之間的紐帶都能變得更加牢固。
Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.
當(dāng)然,你不可能隨時(shí)都能幫上每個(gè)人的忙。畢竟人的時(shí)間、精力和其他資源都是有限的。但是你可以區(qū)別出你生活中真正重要的人,然后盡可能在他們需要時(shí)提供幫助。
Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.
你對(duì)能在實(shí)際上給他們幫助,給他們帶來(lái)情感上的撫慰,而這能給你倆的關(guān)系帶來(lái)質(zhì)的飛躍。
With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.
只要心態(tài)正確、舉止得體,你可以管理好生活中的各類(lèi)人際關(guān)系,并盡可能地改善它們。
And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.
人際關(guān)系可靠了,你不僅更有成就感,還會(huì)感到自己與整個(gè)世界四通八達(dá),覺(jué)得生活很有意義;你會(huì)很開(kāi)心,會(huì)珍惜當(dāng)下。全世界的機(jī)會(huì)都向你敞開(kāi)大門(mén)。
Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.
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